Why Your Soulmate Isn't Coming (and Why That’s a Good Thing)
Because real love grows with you, not before you.
So the prince defies his father, slays the dragon, and rescues the princess from a tower she could’ve climbed down herself. Then what?
Obviously, they kiss. The End. Because that’s how it works. Right?
So we date, we wait, we journal, we manifest. We look for the perfect partner who checks every box. The one who was forged in the stars, sealed by fate, and destined to complete us.
I hate to break it to you, but that soulmate doesn’t exist.
Some people meet young, click, and stay together happily ever after. Great for them. But they’re the outliers (and often the ones fueling this myth).
Here’s the truth: as we age, we grow, we change. Our needs, our desires, our very selves shift.
Think about your “soulmate” from twenty years ago - when you were into big hair, black eyeliner, and spontaneous tequila. Would that person even recognize you now? Do they fit the version of you who gardens? who reads Cusk and buys crypto? who’s done the soul work?
Chances are, they don’t.
“But they would have changed with me,” you say.
No, my friend. That’s fantasy talking. Look them up. We left for a reason.
Now, soulmates are real. Just not in the way we were sold. We have many, and most aren’t romantic. The ones that were? Often heartbreakers. You know it it’s true.
Once, while explaining speed dating to a coworker, she lit up: “Ooo, boy buffet!” She got it. That’s the vibe. Try, taste, decide. Like buying a car, minus the haggling. Less fate, more discernment.
Because every time you grow, every time you level up, you align with a new kind of partner. A new kind of “soulmate.”
So maybe it’s time to stop clinging to the list. Stop waiting for someone to check all the old boxes. Start looking around with new eyes. The eyes of who you are now.
And choose - from here.
Of course, when it comes to soulmates, people often want answers.
Is he the one?
Should I wait?
Is it worth leaving my partner for this connection?
And that’s where things can get murky. Especially when those questions are handed over to a psychic.
Because while there is such a thing as intuitive insight, there’s also projection, wishful thinking, and a deep desire to be told what to do.
That’s where we’re headed next week: The Ethics and Dangers of Relying on Psychic Readings for Life-Altering Decisions
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